Ay when we first met you was too tense for me to get through
And then I got you loose it's like a glove how I fit you
J. Cole is referring to how when a girl first has sex her vagina is tight, but as they tend to have sex more their vagina gets looser.
Cole might have caught this one when she was a virgin.
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