When Boyz n the Hood came out, I mighta' been like nine, 10-years-old, something like that, and my pops and I went to see it. And, with my pops, whether it was books, movies … he would give me a book, or take me to see a movie, and then he would have me write a report about it. That was how I grew up, my whole life. As a little kid, we go see Malcolm X, write a report about it. You know, read such-and-such, write a report about it. Just for him, not for school, or anything like that. And I guess it shows in the way I move, or what I do for a living now.
So, with Boyz n the Hood, we went to see it, and I was a little kid, and my pops said, “We’re gonna go see this movie.” Regardless of the R-rating, or what it was. First off, it wasn’t nuttin' I hadn’t really seen or been exposed to, living in Brooklyn, and having young parents; and then for two, the message meant more than the little parts that may have been too much for a nine-year-old’s eyes. So it was, “Naw, we’re going to see this.”
So we went to see it, and right away my father said, “What did you get from that?” You know? “What did you think about it?” And as I watched the movie, it felt like what had already been going on in my life.
You know, when Tre mother told him, “You gotta live with your father, now.” And Tre said, “Naw, Mommy, but I see Daddy all the time. Like, I go over there on weekends. What’s the problem?” And she said, “Naw, but we gotta reverse it. It’s gotta be different now. I can’t teach you how to be a man. I can’t teach you xyz, how to survive in this world as a black man, only he can. That’s his job.” That’s exactly what happened with my parents. You know, I saw my parents every day in two different households, I bounced back and forth, but I saw and spoke to my parents every day. But when I was nine, 10 years old, my mother said, “You gotta live with your father now.” And I didn’t get it, but then once I got there, I got it.
Watching the movie in the theater, you know, as a little kid, I related to it right away, because as I said, all that stuff was kinda going on, already. And all my friends didn’t have fathers, you know? In my neighborhood, on my block, I mean, it mighta' been one or two other fathers on the whole block, you know? My block, the block up, the block, there mighta' been two other fathers with my father, maybe. You know what I mean? My father and one or two other guys, and that was it.
So you look at Boyz n the Hood, it was the same thing. And I remember my father always saying, “You gonna see how everybody ends up.” You know? “I got love for all your little friends, but you gonna see how it all goes.”
I got friends who’re not here no more, I got friends who been to jail four or five times, I got friends still up there now. I’ve been to Rikers countless times, visiting people. I’ve been to other spots, visiting people. I’ve wrote letters, sent sweat suits, did all that for my friends who ain’t here no more, but nobody ever had to do that for me, thank God. And a lotta that is because I had a father.
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